... and it won’t be the last important decision you’ll feel conflicted about making for your children.  As parents and as people, we have choices to make.  It’s our responsibility to make the choices we think are best for our families.  It’s not necessary or possible to guarantee that we’re right.  All you can do is understand your choice and the factors that go into it as well as possible.  Telling yourself that the choice isn’t really yours can be a relief in the short term but in the long term can make you feel powerless and less confident as a parent.  Making choices for our kids can be intimidating.  We love them more than we ever thought possible, we respect the autonomous adults we trust they will grow to be, and we’re still waiting to attain that certainty and sense of what’s absolutely right that parents are supposed to have.  But when it comes down to it, it’s our responsibility, not anyone else’s.  Nobody has the absolute answer, sure as they may sound.  What we have is the opportunity to make the best choices we can and have faith that our kids are resilient and that overall, our mostly-good decisions will outweigh the mistakes we are certain to make.